i‘m watching season 2 episode 5 of sex and the city right now for about the fourth time.
it’s the episode where carrie gets back with big, charlotte dates a man who picks up women at the cemetery and samantha gets blackballed for sleeping with married men. but the standout plot for this episode to me is miranda moving into a new apartment and getting questioned and judged because she’s not married.
it’s one of my favorite miranda episodes because even though i’m about to complain about it, it really does shine a light into miranda as a character to me. her fear of being alone feels like it’s more than just about being without a man. even though the show frames it that way.
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“The first people on my ‘call in case of emergency’ list are my parents and I don’t like them. And they live in Pennsylvania.” — Miranda Hobbes
personally, the way i interpret the miranda character and her struggle with intimacy and friendships is deeper than just wanting to be with a man. i feel like she’s a perfect example of a character who’s struggle with mommy issues follows her into adulthood. she’s awkward, she doesn’t know how to approach conflict without blowing up, she distances herself from things once they get too emotional, etc. etc.
(i also think she’s autistic but what do i know)
even though i do love this scene i find carrie’s voiceover at the end to be very irritating. not because of her, don’t start.
but just because the use of the word alone seems to only be applicable to men and not just having no one in general. earlier in the episode, miranda’s neighbor informs her that the old woman who had the apartment before her kept to herself (never married), and when she died no one noticed for about a week.
obviously the subtext is because she never had a husband to be in there with her but that’s not the only person who would be concerned if you or i would go missing.
hopefully you have friends or family that would be concerned never having heard from you. in miranda’s case even though she’s distanced from her family, she has best friends that she sees every day. they go to each other’s work events, they have nights in almost nightly. they know the most intimate details about each other. i would argue that is miranda’s family.
i think my biggest issue with sex and the city is that there is the suggestion that the friendship between the women is supposed to take precedence but the writing always falls short in that regard.
“Don’t laugh at me but.. maybe we can be each other’s soul mates. And then we could let men be just these great, nice guys to have fun with.” —Charlotte York
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Hi everyone. It’s been awhile.
I’ve been having the hardest time writing lately and I think the reason why is because I’m just like really critical of myself and the way that I relay my thoughts and information. I’m really scared to sound dumb or not hold up to my last post. So my new way to combat that is just posting these “blurbs”or long form tweets of my thoughts about movies and television and media in general without over thinking it or over complicating it and then posting them here.
I hope you all enjoy! Tell me your thoughts!
Hopefully this means we’ll be talking often.
Thank you for sharing your piece as well as your vulnerability! When watching that show, I always found myself relating to Miranda, both positive and negative aspects. Mostly for the reasons you give, some things I'm learning now as opposed to then.
This was amazing and I enjoy your blurb format! It just shows your amazing storytelling skills and ability to be concise but informative. Can’t wait to read more of these that come to your mind